Readers because today is Fathers Day and this article is sad, true and relevant -you may want to read it tomorrow or sometime soon. I and other advocates and countless other parents and grandparents for Parental Alienation Awareness (referred to hereafter as PA) know the devastating results PA has on children and families. We are compelled and dedicated to this cause and want the public to become informed and have PA awareness.
Our hope is that our local and greater communities,( you ) will recognize PA as a social problem that hurts children, families and society. Public awareness is paramount as well as necessary changes in the politically system including - the current family and department of social services law - domestic relations law - the family courts and the judges role, child unprotective services and the further inequitable roles of the bureaucracy.
The current system facilitates PA and is structured to be detrimental to family dynamics, problems and conflicts. The best interest of the child is absent. Our family courts have failed us and continue to do so.
Through education and relevant information that results in heightened awareness and participation in its prevention PA will be largly curtailed. We must be prepared to help our children and those who become prey to this tragedy. We must do our best to prevent PA.
Today throughout cities and towns in Westchester County, New York State and elsewhere parents are manipulating their children to turn against the other parent. The beginning of this bullying of the child is during separation and divorce. Many times the alienating parent has the underpinning and instigation of a boy or girl friend as in my case. The child victim is venerable and has not yet developed critical thinking cognitive skills and falls prey to the alienators trap.
At it's inception the child begins to loose his or her childhood and all the good memories with the parent they are being conditioned to hate. Stages of childhood development are skipped over or lost and this is dangerous for any child.
No matter what kind of relationship the other parent may have had with their child, a vindictive, revengeful, hateful, narcissistic parent (and family members) can and have brainwashed their child to reject their once loved parent.
There are specific symptoms and potential problematic personality characteristics and disorders an alienated child can develop and must live with. They bury a deep seated guilt , hurt, confusion and anger which they cannot articulate. Being so young they are not equipped to deal with what they feel.
Sadly some adult alienated children have committed suicide. Most PA survivors have strong resentments toward the alienator parent and if and when they seek professional help PA's effects can never be fully undone.
Parental Alienation expert Dr. Amy Baker states in a TV News interview, " The bottom line is, to turn a child away from the other parent is to turn a child against himself."
Parental Alienation is child abuse.