New Rochelle High School Music Video an Example of Bad Timing in Wake of Librarian Sex Sting



A teacher and his students at New Rochelle High School have created a YouTube video entitled Call Me Maybe - Mr. Rabadi. The video was posted yesterday. At the time Talk of the Sound linked the video is had 300 views. This morning it has over 3,000 and climbing.

UPDATE: The video was removed from YouTube on June 7th but later uploaded again on June 8th. In the meantime, the video was uploaded by Talk of the Sound to Vimeo but was removed once the video was back on YouTube.

The kids are all cute and the video is a happy, upbeat homage to a favorite teacher.

In light of the past 14 months, however, where New Rochelle Board of Education employees have been arrested for having or attempting to having sex with students, the image of the teacher holding up a note from a student saying "call me" are more than uncomfortable viewing. The images of the teacher sitting at a desk, texting, while the girls dance around him, brings into question the judgement of those involved. There is a time and place for everything and this is so clearly not the time or place for this sort of video that it is difficult to imagine what these people were thinking.

The video is a lip-sync version of a current pop song by Carly Rae Jepsen called "Call Me Maybe". The lyrics depict girl is soliciting a phone call from a stranger with which she has had a chance encounter in a love-at-first sight scenario. In the video the stranger is her neighbor who turns out to be gay and not interested in her but rather a guy in her back up band. In a twist to the video, the boy hands a note to the guy who reacts with surprise.

I threw a wish in the well,
Don't ask me, I'll never tell
I looked to you as it fell,
And now you're in my way

I'd trade my soul for a wish,
Pennies and dimes for a kiss
I wasn't looking for this,
But now you're in my way

Your stare was holdin',
Ripped jeans, skin was showin'
Hot night, wind was blowin'
Where you think you're going, baby?

Hey, I just met you,
And this is crazy,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

It's hard to look right,
At you baby,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

Hey, I just met you,
And this is crazy,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

And all the other boys,
Try to chase me,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

You took your time with the call,
I took no time with the fall
You gave me nothing at all,
But still, you're in my way

I beg, and borrow and steal
Have foresight and it's real
I didn't know I would feel it,
But it's in my way

Your stare was holdin',
Ripped jeans, skin was showin'
Hot night, wind was blowin'
Where you think you're going, baby?

Hey, I just met you,
And this is crazy,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

It's hard to look right,
At you baby,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

Hey, I just met you,
And this is crazy,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

And all the other boys,
Try to chase me,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

Before you came into my life
I missed you so bad
I missed you so bad
I missed you so, so bad

Before you came into my life
I missed you so bad
And you should know that
I missed you so, so bad

It's hard to look right,
At you baby,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

Hey, I just met you,
And this is crazy,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

And all the other boys,
Try to chase me,
But here's my number,
So call me, maybe?

Before you came into my life
I missed you so bad
I missed you so bad
I missed you so, so bad

Before you came into my life
I missed you so bad
And you should know that

So call me, maybe?

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Bob McCaffrey on Mon, 06/11/2012 - 13:11

Yes timing is bad,

I thought the video was creative and should be encouraged. There was once a film appreciation classes at HRHS when I went there. Between this story, the pirate story, and the many other stories about New Rochelle staff, the real problem hasn’t been addressed. Don’t go overboard about poor timing for a well-intended video don’t take away from the fact that we have some very wonderful and devoted staff in our school system. That said, the bad must be exposed and discussed. We need videos and conversation about the abuses of our tax dollars by the Board of Ed and the school staff that take the citizens for a ride. Twice last week I went in to NRHS and could have been almost anyone with any objective. Except for a few very attentive security guards I came across several who could care less why I was there or if I was there. I tried to get direction from one guard and after saying excuse me I need help, I was ignored and the guard’s private conversations across the courtyard continued so I just went into the school on my own. This is what New Rochelle citizens and HRHS students should be angry about. It’s their safety and lives that are in the hands of many individuals that don’t care. Those individuals overshadow the good job that is being done by other staff members. If you want to go viral about something, that is what should be discussed.

Happy Graduation Class of 2012!

rob on Mon, 06/11/2012 - 05:02

Mr. Cox,
You are entitled to your opinion that Mr. Rabadi faltered in judgement, as ludicrous as nearly EVERYBODY believes it to be. But I take issue with some things that you wrote led that to your conclusion, as well as some of your responses to comments.
--You wrote that the students danced around the teacher as he texted. When it was pointed out that he was using a calculator, you said that the fact he was using his thumbs meant the calculator was a prop for a phone. This is a ridiculous assumption. Unlike older calculators, the new graphing calculators mandated for high school math have a longer design with smaller buttons. They are meant to be used with the thumbs, and it is clear that he was meant to be using the calculator to do math, not text. This is indisputable if you have ever used a graphing calculator.
--You claimed that the students should have used a different song. Without THIS SPECIFIC SONG, there is no video. In 30 years, when these kids are asked what the song of their senior class was, the answer will be Call Me Maybe. It is the song of 2012, and furthermore, there are dozens of youtube videos of people dancing or lip-syncing to this specific song. It was obvious that this was another video in a popular trend of video posts. In this context, the lyrics of the song are irrelevant. The kids are merely posting another Call Me Maybe lipsync to youtube, one of thousands. This effect would have been lost with any other songs.
--Finally, I have noticed that when you respond to comments, you often ignore the heart of the point of your adversary, instead pointing out grammatical errors or the difference between slander and libel. I agree that you are entitled to your opinion, and you have clearly not committed libel. You have however committed a logical fallacy in arguing not the message of the poster, but the grammar of the post.

In conclusion, if you feel that the video was inappropriate in the wake of scandal, you can clearly not be dissuaded. But you have consistently ignored and twisted facts, and used misdirections to argue your point. The class did not come up with an original idea to make a video where a teacher gets phone numbers. They added to a trend of videos which featured the most popular song in the world, which is about telephonic communication. It appears that nearly everybody disagrees with you.

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Robert Cox on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 18:49

Wellesley High School English teacher David McCullough, Jr.’s gave the faculty speech to the Class of 2012 last Friday. I commend it to your attention.

The pull quote comes about a third of the way into the speech:

You are not special. You are not exceptional.

Contrary to what your u9 soccer trophy suggests, your glowing seventh grade report card, despite every assurance of a certain corpulent purple dinosaur, that nice Mister Rogers and your batty Aunt Sylvia, no matter how often your maternal caped crusader has swooped in to save you… you’re nothing special.

Yes, you’ve been pampered, cosseted, doted upon, helmeted, bubble-wrapped. Yes, capable adults with other things to do have held you, kissed you, fed you, wiped your mouth, wiped your bottom, trained you, taught you, tutored you, coached you, listened to you, counseled you, encouraged you, consoled you and encouraged you again. You’ve been nudged, cajoled, wheedled and implored. You’ve been feted and fawned over and called sweetie pie. Yes, you have. And, certainly, we’ve been to your games, your plays, your recitals, your science fairs. Absolutely, smiles ignite when you walk into a room, and hundreds gasp with delight at your every tweet. Why, maybe you’ve even had your picture in the Townsman! And now you’ve conquered high school… and, indisputably, here we all have gathered for you, the pride and joy of this fine community, the first to emerge from that magnificent new building…

But do not get the idea you’re anything special. Because you’re not.

He goes on to make a point I have made elsewhere about the nature of the reaction to my rather innocuous criticism about the timing of uploading this video -- that it smacks of whining by a group of students who have been told for so long how special they are that they do not know how to handle even the mildest form of criticism.

You see, if everyone is special, then no one is. If everyone gets a trophy, trophies become meaningless. In our unspoken but not so subtle Darwinian competition with one another–which springs, I think, from our fear of our own insignificance, a subset of our dread of mortality — we have of late, we Americans, to our detriment, come to love accolades more than genuine achievement.

A love of accolades...exactly.

The reaction to my article is based, in part, on the notion that no one should ever criticize in any way anything that a student does because it is not conducive to enhancing their self-esteem.

There are, I am sure, quite a few students at New Rochelle High School that have actual accomplishments and can point to genuine achievement. They are not likely to care what I think because their self-esteem is earned and they would have the self-confidence to realize that not everyone is going to agree with them. They will brush off criticism when they have their own well-founded reasons for their words and deeds. I do not imagine many of them gave a damn about my article or this entire "controversy".

In his closing, McCullough notes:

The fulfilling life, the distinctive life, the relevant life, is an achievement, not something that will fall into your lap because you’re a nice person or mommy ordered it from the caterer.

You can read the entire speech here.

Warren Gross on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 22:39

What is so great about what he has said. These kids will learn this for themselves and at the right time.

He is a set-up man --- he tears them down, takes a bite out of other social institutions and then once they are reeling from a combination of general confusion to likely disgust, he then barrels in with his little intellectual cheering statements. I especially liked his reference to Sophocles which i think probably is somewhat arcane; if he wanted to press home the point of nothing special" he would have went directly to Socrates who knew what the hell that was really all about.

And you suggest this line of thought captured much of what you were trying to say? Well, then maybe just saying it and letting it go at that would have been preferable to the sturm und drang that followed.

Right or wrong ceremonies, rites of passages, these sort of events have always, even before your generation and mine, dwelt on the idea of transition. Of course they are not special, hardly relevant, but neither is a screed on their seventeen, eighteen year old lives by some pompous educrat with a grounding in literature and history.Probably more important if a man in his middle age and one in his senior years (you and I robert) should examine that and see if we are holding on to those thoughts well past our formative years.

Yes of course, students have more reason today to at least feel materialistically special and that is superficial but I know as a boy I wanted whatever the next kid had or wanted. I felt special because my family said I was -- Christ we had families, Churches and Synagogues that meant more, and if any of use chose to be atheists, free thinkers, whatver, we had very specal places to go to do just that and interesting, maybe even special people to guide us. Do you think the people who shaped our societies, our world, for better or worse, did this in today's 120 word maximize social media, breaking news, power people who shift and slide and people in many urban environments, like ours who prefer to not get involved but go directly to page 6, the USA Today, or that paragon of literary value that printed McCulloughs' rant. How did Gawker miss this little gem?

Maybe this is the kind of babble that elevates Rabati. I think Rabati understands the difference between adolescents being made to feel special on a day set aside for that and where they actually may eventually fit into the great chain of being that could make a special meaning to this world we occupy at some risk now. Sadly, McCullough is not talking about the graduation in part one of his speech, he is giving his assessment of what he feels is, in part, the value of today's young people and their ability to function as he would have them function. Thus the stick, now the carrot placed carefully on a long string in front of each non-special face.

McCullough might agree even he is nothing special. His "speciality" comes from that fact that he is useful in explaining the different comments and questions raised in the recent Librarian post.

I took your condescending little digs and your generous references to my disability and sometimes coherency with a sense of my non-speciality. Not having your computer gifts, I cannot rachet up an occasional "intellectual" support or obscure quote, but that is ok. Your core readers are likely as interested in that as they are in my boring, tedious attempts to come up with a community response grounded in both history, culture and I might add intellectual acumen, that may work better than doing little but reminding kids they are not "special" or ignoring the need to shift gears away from a mayor and Administration who, sadly, likely think they are special. But, Robert in this day and age, that is easy to do.... we see it in all levels and layers of government and the media. Look in the mirror and you will see it there.

McCullough is beating the drum that has been beaten for generation. However, his timing leaves a hell of a lot to be desired. He is a brilliant man with, in my view, a misplaced sense of how a culture embraces its members who succeed in some one of life's milestones.

Were you ever in the military? McCullogh is like a intellectual drill sergeant facing a platoon of newly shorn, frightened kids. The sergeant knows he has to break them down to build them up to represent what they must be to enhance their chances of staying alive. Things are a hell of a lot simpler in these days; damn, you know more than most that mastery of your expertise can and does afford many advantages not available to me, maybe even you in days of yore. No hand-held calculators then for standard devialtions, or software for Pouissant approximations. YOu had to know it man.

I think these kids are exactly, repeat exactly where they should be at this point in their lives. Rapaci I sense knows this, and has found a way to reach them at a basic level and they celebrate that.

I stand by my earlier statements about the kids and the faculty. Too bad McCullough cannnt come to town and help me and some others over the hurdles in trying to get the Administration to see that they are nothing "special"

I will say more on this with another post on the City Charter next week. I will be boring but it is one of three ways to change the government and make this city SPECIAL.

Don't suppose the readers will see much of this quote now that we have a new preoccupation with the fmaily and other courts and this does seem to be very important and well done Mr. Sacco.

Better take my meds. Mama and my old drill sergeant told me there would be days like this.

Porquemonsieur on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 13:50
Title: New Vidoe

There's a new video; better quality. The other one has been set to private.

Warren Gross on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 03:01

I am not speaking censorshop nor advocating contolled journalism. I am imply saying that the longer this trip to nowhere continues, the more it impeded on the need to elevate issues of greater importance to the attention of the City and this has been a long time in delaying.

I have waded through the tsk tsk tsking that may have taken liberties with certain words or phrasings, I have see a parallel of Bill Clinton's famous cross-pollination of the word, "is" when discussion his pecadillos with the randy intern.

I have seen a video that does not trouble me in the lesst, done by attractive talented young people appparently to honor a beloved teaher a Mister Rapaci, who appears to be a rare combination of good guy and understanding facutly member.

I haven't a dog's clue's whether this apparent affront by timing speaks to some insensibilities conerning the librarian return to the court (need theme music heare), whether Cox is malevolent, anal on getting the facts, simply in need to boost membershp or keep the erads reads high. He has doneall and played into the hands of the district and studentsw who can see that the wy to engage Coxs is not around the trought or facts as he loves to say, but ina unquenchable desire to punish all supporter students wo don;t measure up as a worthy opponent.

I have come to the point that Cos does not ideas to f8x things rahter is talents is to mix the mash,stir the pot. and keep tyhe issues followinig in terms oflarge postings for whatever puprose it serves

He is, at best, an anal supporter of educatiion from where i sit.And in turning to the student goey, you aare cut more slack but you are comfortably settling in the 24-29 rnge core subjects and yu think that a chicken shit demonstration while storming the pedagogue assaults of Cox are your county and state rankings in core and other subvjects. Dont even compare to Borat's country -- you are behind the curb.

Many of us grow a massivedebt to cox because we live in a city where your privilige white skin, hiher educatioin achievenment and better standards of living might take you away from the publician. Yet while teaching in the district as a substitute years earlier, i saw little of that, There was always some effort for example to break up all black lunch rom or all latino lunch room tabes to diversifty.

KIds once again where smarter than the social engineers and would interact on more personal basis, like common interest, study partners and that like. Rules that forced compliance never work

And, parents. youngsters, and friedns of Tots. Cox needs to let this go and say lttle else. The student lipnch video is seen as celebrating a beloved teacher and little elase. He was a dude man, he played into it. Nothing stiffy, only creative.

As fare as timing that makes less and less sense.So it happend; I failed to hear a huge hew and cry about pirate hat temptress outside of Post. I will bet attendance didn't siffer, Connella had room store him letters and emails i am sure, and if any young people received any sleazy inivitation to hook up, I would be shocked and then smaclked him or her with a bat.

Students of Newe Rochelle your graduation rates, your overall grades in core topcis are falling in conmparision to other schools in the County and State. This is somewhat undeerstandable at several levels. I am not going to give you direct opinion on any leader, techer or adminiistration as that would be cowardly.

So let me give you better new. YOu have a new head of the school board Chrissane Petronne, who followed a talented lady called sarah Richmond. in this role. They are seeing some of the major problems and concerns not brought correctly to their attention by the Superintenendt. There are lots of funding issues, less than perfrct choioces made in selectioni more senior staff or hwo to build a cirricula that will bring us back to our high standard.

We have youngsters here from other countries and it is partily your job to make them feel wanted and at home. In your ancestor's days, the Irish helped the Italian, the Italian ghe Jew, the Jew the Pole, the Pole the ?Germana and then perhaps later tan it should ahve been, the backs, browns, and yellows.

Your turn. This is not an on going facebook or blog war with an adult that you could care less about.

This is a time to clebrate your work, show mr. Rabati even more love, tell youdr parents, no swesat, we can handle this.

And make it a point to look after your school and classmates. No more bullying, no going through the motions, go do something in the community; see your Rabbi, Priest ar Minister and surely Jim Killoran of Habibat Humanity. Paint the infrastruburen clean the grounds.

Can we agree to call an end to the pirate lady? If it will help, I will buy her a parakeet and you can teach her a school son.

Be our best generatioin and some of us are committed to change government for the good of all citizens. If you sign up with JIm Killoran at Habitat, I will take you on and show you how we move forward with respect for our community, governance, and parents.

Oh, I enjoyed th video and the presentation very mcuh

wd mr g

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Robert Cox on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 17:13


You are worrying me. I know you like to ramble on and on but your statements are usually at least somewhat coherent. I am genuinely concerned. You have said you have been unwell and whether it is medication or a relapse, you are clearly not yourself.

That said, as to the content of what you wrote I would merely point out that you have a bad habit of ascribing motives and making declarations along these lines. It is not up to you to decide when a topic has run its course or what people can say,what their motives are or what topic is fit for discussion.

If you are not interested in this topic I suggest you stop reading the comments on this topic. It will run its course on its own without your intervention.

If you want to "elevate" discussions and focus attention on issues of "greater importance" there are other ways to do that than telling other people to shut up. For instance, you can write an article on one of these issue and invite people to comment on that issue.

Believe it or not, it is possible that not everyone shares your interests nor your notions of what is important or not important. As I have already stated elsewhere in these comments, anyone is welcome to write an article on a New Rochelle topic on this site. Students can write "good" stories about NRHS and you can write stories about the City Charter or whatever else interests you. What I cannot abide is you, them or anyone trying tell other people what they can write about or discuss on this site.

Free speech does not have a time limit and even if it did you are not the referee, at least not on my web site.

Now, get some sleep and take care of yourself.

Warren Gross on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 19:13

Bob you are right. Was off my meds but at 11pm or so my wife called out from the bedroom suggesting I post just as I was. So I did.

Look, now that some form of coherecy has come into play, I see with the cold light of day and the comfort of my medications that you are missing the points.

Of course students are capable of posting and giving opinions. It is our loss that it takes an issue of this sort to bring them forward. They are coming out because they are being offered the correct recipe to attract their interest. Their judgment, their respected and beloved teacher, their sense of selves, music, school, etc. is seen to be under assault. Surely you can read their remarks and get that much from all this. Were this on any other subject, you would not hear from them. so it is manufactured for student consumption.

Bob, when five of the six "most popular today" postings are all about this lamentable tale, you can safely take the point of view that you have a pretty strong interest in this subject. The subject, in and of itself, is not that horrendous; it is sadly reflective of our times as noted in the increasing number of instances we read about such things in the papers or see reports on the tv.

You can also gauge your personal interest in the number of times you engage a particular posting. You seem to have done this quite a bit with the number of various postings written on this lady pirate.

Your take on my motives, my "rambling" etc. is surely subjective but, coupled with the fact that I don't care what you think about either point, I will simply continue to thank you for the renewed opportunity to post what I please which is, I am sure, a benefit you hold out to all.

Perhaps you are being misunderstood by the readers on this situation. It seems on its face it is an example of a woman in a pirate's hat who got caught doing something a reasonable student or adult would rather have seen happen in the district. Is there more? Help me cut through my rambling.

So, let me summarize how I feel with help from my medications, 200% or so magnification on my screen and my trusting cat on the desk next to my computer.

1. You are damn right that I tend to post on matters that perhaps will pay off in making this a stronger, safer, more open, and a better community.

2. My last post was disgraceful; not in content, but in being unreadable, so I appreciate the opportunity to clean it up some.

a. Of course students can post what they want; surprised to see so many youngsters on TOTS. Glad they are and hope they turn their thoughts and
talents towards making New Rochelle and their school district the best it can and should be.

b. Don't think I mentioned they should not "discuss" their issue, but these are bright
young people and I am sure are focusing on whether
this is played out, going in the wrong direction or
precisely what is left to say about a wicked old
pirate lady that hasn't already been said.

c. I was a subsitute in the district for a number of
years and I think if my concussed brain works it out
correctly, the last kids I stood before and took the
substitute teacher initiation just graduated this
year. I was Mister G and I congratulate the students
for the respect and love they show Mr. Rapaci. He is
blessed and I envy his skill as my was mostly
breaking up fights or modifying a syllabus to make
it interesting.

d. I hate Glee; but I really liked this video and
all I think it stood for. As I have said on TOTS and in other places, we have a strong faculty in New
Rochelle and great students. This confirms it in my

Let me close by encouraging the students to work
with the community in some meaningful way. One
great way is via Habitat for Humanity; another is
in Community Action. Still a third is to get to know
your local City Councilman and see if there are
opportunities to serve the City.

Ok, meds are wearing off soon and I will probably
screw up, pick a fight, or howl at the moon; no more
likely ramble on concerning some trivial matter like
supporting veterans or restoring our city's history.

So, I will close, I may post again, perhaps more
coherently, and through you, state how proud I am of you and your recent upper classmates for standing
up for what you think is right and I hope you will
work harder next year to root out all bullying and
to insist, with the help of your families that you
get the education you want and deserve.

Let up on Bob Cox some if you will. This statement
might force a comment again from him, but without
him and this blog we would not have even a remote
voice in this City.

We are not best bros, but he is upfront and he has
a lot of courage to do what he does. Read TOTS often
when the Anton ship sinks out of sight; you will
learn that you have a lot of neighbors here who are
bright, rightly concerned, underappreciated, not
used, and.....

that's it.

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Robert Cox on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 19:57

Glad you are feeling better.

I do keep writing about this topic. Why do you think that is?

I have been actively engaged on this topic but it is a part of a broader concern about the lack of accountability in our schools. I have been writing for quite a while about this particular form of it, that of BoE employees engaged in inappropriate sexual conduct.

There are not isolated incidents.

The amount of this conduct in our schools is unique to New Rochelle. Just check the papers. How many schools in Westchester County have had an administrator arrested and convicted for having sex with a student in the past 5 his office at the school no less? I cannot think of any but maybe there is some other instance. That alone would be a concern. But we do not have just this once instance.

Here is what I have reported on Talk of the Sound in the last couple of years....

Donna Henry, et al -- transmitting a nude image of a 14-year old girl, transferred from ALMS to NRHS, , still works for the Board of Education.

Anthony Newman - sexually molesting a district employee in City Hall, still works for the Board of Education.

Bobby McLean - sex with students, still works for the Board of Education.

Kyle Figueroa - sex with students in the school building, still works for the Board of Education.

Leroy Manual - sex with students, one girl impregnated, still works for the Board of Education.

Walter Hubbard - sex with students, fired for repeatedly being caught viewing pornography on district computers.

Kareem Ali - sexually harassing his supervisor, banned from walking in certain areas of City Hall, still works for the Board of Education.

Patrick Clark - soliciting sex online with a "15-year old girl" who was an undercover cop, arrested by the DA.

Marisa Anton - soliciting sex online with a NRHS student, arrested at his house with condoms in her possession, arrested by NRPD.

Jose Martinez - repeatedly raping a child in his school office, arrested by NRPD.

These are not the only cases. I will be reporting on those soon enough.

Schools Superintendent Richard Organisciak issued a statement saying that the district takes these matters seriously.

No. They do not. They treat it like it is a big joke. They laugh about it. They accommodate it. They tolerate it. They excuse it. They do a lot of things but taking it seriously is not one of them.

Very much like the Catholic Church, they sweep it under the rug, they transfer these predators to different schools, they hope no one notices and hopes it goes away.

I suppose that our administrators can afford to laugh it off considering that none of them have children in our schools. I do have children in the schools and whatever policy our district wants to have with sexual predators the policy on Talk of the Sound is a zero-tolerance policy.

Warren, I think you know that few if any of these stories would have seen the light of day but for Talk of the Sound. So, yes I do write about if often. What else would have me do? Accept it like these people do?

The reality is that so many people have become so inured to the unbelievable behavior of the adults in our school system that it washes over them. They have no concept how it sounds to the rest of us.

Case in point, those who were there will recall that after Jose Martinez was arrested, Isaac Principal Anthony Bongo made a statement at a heavily-attended PTA meeting. Schools Superintendent Richard Organisciak and Board President Chrisanne Petrone were present. Bongo declared that he wanted everyone to know that Martinez was raping the child after school hours. His point was that it was not "our" fault what happened and so "we" should not feel badly about it.

This statement received heavy applause from school district employees.

I repeat.

The faculty and staff applauded enthusiastically when the principal told them that the victim was raped after school hours.

What does that tell you about the mindset of school officials?

newromom on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 00:54

When I heard about the video, of course I had to see it. I saw nothing wrong with the video and actually enjoyed it. So what's all the hoopla about? From what I've read here so far, it seems that the posters refuse to see what it actually being said by Mr. Cox. The only thing that seems to be in question, is the timing of the release of the video...not the character of the teacher or the subject of the video (except as in relation to the timing of its' release).I have to say that I also think the timing of video wasn't thought out very carefully.
I also feel that some of the posts were very immature and inappropriate....not a good way to make your opinion credible. You have every right to disagree, but Mr. Cox also has the right to his opinion.
I applaud the fact that the students are allowed to be creative, and that they have a teacher that they respect, but again, sometimes you have to look at the whole picture.

happygolucky on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 23:58

I just went to replay the video and it says "sorry this video is private". Does anyone know what happened? Before the news there were 300 views and it jumped to 2200.

nrhs2011 on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 01:32

If anything, this video shows that it is actually possible to have a strong NON-sexual teacher-student relationship at NRHS. This is one of many PARODY videos based on the viral song Call me Maybe. I'm sorry sir but you are reading way too far in to this and it is quite offensive when you question the judgement of such a responsible teacher as Mr. Rabadi. I still can't read the headline without laughing because it is quite ridiculous and this article is much better suited for The Onion. However keep ranting on your small time blog and questioning the innocence of the video as an homage because at the end of the day all of us educated on the entire situation (i.e. the song, the video parodies, and the teacher) will know what the correct answer is. I'd also like to point out that I am an ivy league college and Mr. Rabadi continues today to give me very valuable and morally sound advice. It just seems completely out of charter for him to drop the ball like this as you have claimed he has done. But again you only see one video and all of our comments, and you're and expert on the situation. Keep digging muckraker.

NewRochelleUSED... on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 09:39

Almost SEVEN thousand 'reads', 'eyeballs', whatever they call it. Some dinky actors would love to have that much attention.

Sorry, nrhs2011, this 'small time blog' is a force to be reckoned with, just ask Senor Fevang. Now, if only Idoni II would pay attention and revitalize downtown New Rochelle.

Oh, back on topic - seriously, NRHS censors this blog? Shame on them, do they keep 1984 out of the library too? Is that why the librarian had too much time on her hands?

But you are right about the video - it is cute.

nrhs2011 on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 21:34

Lets be realistic this is not the op ed section of the Times or a renowned news source, it is the Talk of the Sound. The fact of the matter is that it only contains information about a town with a population of a little over 77,000 people (2010 Census). So yes this is a small time blog. I'm pretty confident no one outside of the Southern Westchester region even knows about the Talk of the Sound let alone checks it daily. The only reason this specific entry has garnered this many views is the fact that it is slandering the well-respected reputation of Mr. Rabadi. However I do sincerely appreciate the fact that you, like Mr. Cox, took the time to disregard all other elements and focus on one small thing. If you re-read my comment you would see that this being a small time blog is not the focal point, it is rather a small piece of the much bigger picture. I appreciate you agreeing with me on the video however you are quite wrong on the small time blog front. "Dinky" actors stick to twitter, and most of them have a lot more than 7,000 followers. But I digress. I'm just trying to say that this muckraker slandered an amazing teacher's name on a SMALL TIME blog.

NewRochelleUSED... on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 17:28

Nice try, but your response is flaccid.

And one more time, a point which you failed to address:


Remember the influence this site had on his visibility.

But you already know that, right Idoni II?


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Robert Cox on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 16:53

I have worked on large sites and small. I have written for major newspapers and magazines around the county, managed The Ruckus, Newsweek's political blog during the 2007-08 campaign cycle and partnered with the Associated Press to cover a major federal trial (U.S. v. I. Lewis "Scooter" Libby) This is a hyper-local site. It is not meant to serve the same audience as a national or international publication like the The New York Times.

If you want to refer to this site as "small time", in the context of other work I have done, then it is small. At the same time, our traffic dwarfs that of our local competitors here in New Rochelle. In other words, we are a big fish in a relatively small pond. I see nothing wrong with that and we do not pretend to be something that we are not.

nrhs2011 wrote:

I'm pretty confident no one outside of the Southern Westchester region even knows about the Talk of the Sound let alone checks it daily.

Your confidence would be misplaced. Every major media outlet in the New York Tri-State area either subscribes to our daily email newsletter or follows through social media. These outlets rely on Talk of the Sound as a source for their own coverage because they know we have interesting stories and we have them first and often exclusively. Why do you think our stories keep getting picked up elsewhere in the media?

We often drive the news cycle in the area -- Westchester and the New York Tri-State area. We have broken many stories that have been picked up in the wider area media and some stories have gone national and even worldwide. In this case, our reporting on the librarian was picked up and went far and wide, the music video story was picked up, so far, by channel 12 and 4.

Our readership is mostly concentrated in this area but also includes people who have moved away from the area and, when we have larger stories you will see traffic from all over the United States and some from outside the United States.

Again, your confidence would be misplaced.

nrhs2011 wrote:

The only reason this specific entry has garnered this many views is the fact that it is slandering the well-respected reputation of Mr. Rabadi.

Setting aside your theories on why this site gets traffic on a particular story, can you please explain how what I actually wrote in my article "slandered" (by which you mean "libeled" as slander is spoken defamation and libel is defamation in print).

Let me remind you of my exact words...

The kids are all cute and the video is a happy, upbeat homage to a favorite teacher.

In light of the past 14 months, however, where New Rochelle Board of Education employees have been arrested for having or attempting to having sex with students, the image of the teacher holding up a note from a student saying "call me" are more than uncomfortable viewing. The images of the teacher sitting at a desk, texting, while the girls dance around him, brings into question the judgement of those involved. There is a time and place for everything and this is so clearly not the time or place for this sort of video that it is difficult to imagine what these people were thinking.

Look at this statement, please explain in what way have I libeled Mr. Ribadi?

In other words, what is the false or misleading statement that I have made which I knew to be untrue and that caused Mr. Ribadi financial harm?

I would note that my criticism did not even mention Mr. Ribadi. I have never made any derogatory comments about Mr. Ribadi as a teacher or as a human being beyond the issue of judgement in this particular matter. On the other hand, I recognized in my article that clearly he was a favorite teacher of the students who made the video.

I have come to understand that although Mr. Ribadi appeared in the video and co-operated with the video he did not make the video nor did he upload the video. I am told that this was a student production and the film was shot and edited by a student or students and uploaded by a student.

In that case, I would note that my criticism of "those involved" refers to those students and not Mr. Ribadi as regards to making an uploading the video and to asking him to appear in the video holding up the sign. If there were any parents involved I would also apply my criticism to them as well.

Clearly Mr. Ribadi erred in appearing in the video in the way they did (with the sign, lip-syncing the words "call me"). It is my understanding that he is aware of that now.

That I have published an article that opines on the poor judgement of those involved does not even remotely constitute defamation. Not only does my article not meet that standard but I am clearly expressing my opinion not stating a fact which has always been protected speech.

It is not a "crime" to say you think something is dumb.

I am going to be discussing this on my Blog Talk Radio show tomorrow. It is a call-in show. If you are or any other commenters who have been critical of my article intend to call in and debate the subject I would encourage you to come armed with a few facts and a basic understanding of the law regarding defamation and copyright.

nrhs2011 on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 20:22
Title: Thank you

I appreciate your long and thoughtful response, and really do begin to see the point your making. However I would like to point out that yet again you made the same typo with RABADI's name. I understand that your pompous, arrogant response (Robert Cox: "Happy now? It is called a typo. It tends to happen at 1 in the morning.") may have sufficed the first time but this recent entry is laden with Rabadi's name being spelled wrong. The only time you spelled it right was when you copied and pasted an excerpt from my argument. While I am not doubting your claim of "I have worked on large sites and small. I have written for major newspapers and magazines around the county, managed The Ruckus, Newsweek's political blog during the 2007-08 campaign cycle and partnered with the Associated Press to cover a major federal trial (U.S. v. I. Lewis "Scooter" Libby)..." it does seem a tad careless to me that you would still not take the time to even get the name right when it is right in front of you. Keep being that self-proclaimed big fish in a little pond hot shot.

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Robert Cox on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 01:10

Several commenters have a question I have heard before -- why don't you write about the good things that go on at the high school?

This is as good a place as any to make students aware that as a matter of policy matter, Schools Superintendent Richard Organisciak refuses to acknowledge Talk of the Sound as a media outlet. We are prohibited from receiving press releases or "media avails", we are not allowed in school buildings to cover events that are not open to the public and we are otherwise denied opportunities to cover the "good things" to which these commenters refer. We cannot send photographers to shoot photos at events, we are refused comment on stories and otherwise pushed away from the schools.

Where possible, we do cover the "good things" in New Rochelle schools -- mostly at events that are open to the public or where one of my children is participating and thus I have access as a parent.

That said, as many of you have now experienced, you are quite able to register for an account and publish your own articles on this site. I would like nothing better than to publish every "good" story on NRHS than I can get. After all, as some of you have noted, my kids have gone to, are going to or will go to NRHS.

Since Talk of the Sound is banned from the school (and are web site is blocked from your network) there is not much we can except cover what becomes available to us - that often means stories that come from OTHER state agencies like the District Attorney or the NRPD.

If any of you are seriously interested in seeing "good" stories about NRHS on Talk of the Sound, I would encourage you to stop complaining and do something about it. As some of you have now learned, Talk of the Sound is the largest media outlet in New Rochelle and we routinely drive the news cycle for coverage of New Rochelle stories in the wider media. In the past two weeks our stories have been picked up by every TV station (2,4,5,7,12), the Journal News and various others.

Because the school district officially bans us from covering "good" events it should be no surprise that the only coverage you get is "bad".

Anyone interested to do this -- and possibly publish a story that gets picked up in many other news outlets -- should look at our FAQ. A good start is 300 words about some topic or event or person and a nice photo to go along with the story.

Or you can just sit around and bemoan the fact that you don't get good coverage on Talk of the Sound, the one place in town that has a large audience and the ability to drive the news cycle with the sort of "good" stories you say you want.

Newro109352 on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 16:27

Was any actual damage or harm done to anyone in the production of this video ? I highly doubt it. And there was only one set of parents actually shown on News 12 being interviewed . so no you can't say that parents object in general to the video. That's like saying 4 out of 5 women who used some product lost weight when there are only 5 women who tested it. and if you really are such an amazing reporter you would have noticed that in the comments of this and the news 12 segment online, many adults and parents found that this was not controversial just fucking stupid to make such a big deal out of.

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Robert Cox on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 18:27
Title: thinking...

Newro109352 asks:

Was any actual damage or harm done to anyone in the production of this video?

I have not stated that actual damage or harm was done to anyone with regard to this video so I fail to see the relevance of this question.

Newro109352 says:

And there was only one set of parents actually shown on News 12 being interviewed . so no you can't say that parents object in general to the video.

I have not stated that parents object in general to the video so I fail to see the relevance of this statement.

Newro109352 says:

...many adults and parents found that this was not controversial just fucking stupid to make such a big deal out of.

I have not stated that the video was controversial. I have stated that I thought releasing this video at this time was poor judgement. I am sure that there are students and parents who do not think it was poor judgement to release the video within the context of the criminal proceeding against Marisa Anton. There are lots of people who disagree with me on many subjects that does not mean I should not express my view on them just as they ought to express their view.

What I will object to is what I perceive to be the deliberate and gross misrepresentation of what I actually wrote and I will keep correcting the misinformation each and every time it is published here.

I think the timing was dumb, you don't. Fine.

How is that the same as my saying that Mr. Ribadi is a bad person or a bad teacher. It's not and the constant repetition of that here, on Facebook, in online petitions and so forth is not going to change that.

I welcome criticism and debate over what I actually wrote. I put my own name to my words and stand by them. A few students have done that on the site and I respect them. As readers of this site well know, I have less respect for people who do not publish under their own names although I allow that here given my free speech principles. I have even less respect for those who attempt to foster strawman arguments, don't have a command of basic facts or understand citations they make whether they be quotations, laws or primary sources. Even lower down is people who combine these with curse words and ad hominem attacks.

Folks can say what they want here but if you want to be taken seriously, at least by me, you are going to have address what I actually wrote in the article not some caricature you heard about a social media site. It's not that hard, just go to the top of this article and read it then response to what I wrote. And if you are going to address it, resist the temptation to explain copyright or defamation law to me when I am quite familiar with both and know when I am dealing with someone who has no idea what they are talking about.

NEWRO914 on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:37
Title: REALLY?!

Just let it go. You are making a video into such a big deal.
Mr. Cox don't you have anything else to do than gossip like an old lady about New Rochelle?

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:40
Title: let it go

I am not the one who started a petition drive and flooded Facebook with whining about this article. I think you have the shoe on the wrong foot.

down with cox on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 12:58
Title: BIAS

The video was made well before the Anton arrest.

It was very easy for you to post the Anton article first, then the video and make references trying to connect the two the way you wanted.


Porquemonsieur on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 17:05

Yes, but you're the cause of the petition and 'whining', and the cause of its propagation. I don't think the petition is asking for much...just an apology. a simple apology.

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 20:36
Title: apology?

Are we talking about the same petition?

The petition I have seen is asking that I "rescind" the article but which I take it that the goal is that I remove or retract the article.

I have not seen any petition asking for an apology and no one has asked me to apologize.

That said there is nothing to apologize for. I have expressed my view that the timing of putting out this video was unwise. People can disagree. On what basis would any of this warrant an apology from anyone? People disagree. It happens all the time.

AdamLaTorraca on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:45

Your reply did not even remotely respond to his comment. He is the one supporting Rabadi, not the one essentially saying that Rabadi is on the same level as Anton. Use the edit button and take a crack at it again.

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 20:38

Can you point out where I states that anyone was on the " same level as Anton"? No. So what are you talking about?

AdamLaTorraca on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:27

I think the fact that you, Robert Cox, can't even bother to spell Nazar Rabadi's name right clearly indicates that you A) Have no respect for fact checking, to literally the lightest degree of fact checking possible, and journalistic integrity, and B) Only have interest in posting a shocking news headline. You have no right to even insinuate that Rabadi is in anyway involved in anything that Anton was. Rabadi is both a friend and favorite teacher to almost every student. The fact that you would write an article like that disgusts me and should disgust you, if you even remotely cared about what you stand for.

AdamLaTorraca on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:41

Pulled the video, I see. Quickly switching it to the Youtube re-upload, nicely done! We're going to get plenty more views with it now!

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:43

I did not call for the video to be pulled from YT and when it was I put it up on Vimeo so it could still be seen and discussed. Having learned that the video was put back up on YT I took down the video on Vimeo to direct attention to what I believe to be someone associated with the original uploader.

Differences aside on the timing, from a marketing perspective, it was foolish to take down the video. Any "damage" was already done and the original uploader "lost" credit for many thousands of views.

AdamLaTorraca on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:47
Title: Tsk Tsk

Are you really so stuck up that you can't even admit that you are wrong? I clearly caught you making a mistake that you can't even deny, but when you are faced with it, you pass the buck. What a guy.

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 20:40

Happy now?

It is called a typo. It tends to happen at 1 in the morning.

downwithcox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 13:59

Mr. Cox,

In your "article", you question the judgement of those involved. I am questioning your judgement for even making such an absurd connection. Yes, what Miss Anton did was wrong, but to even think that Mr. Rabadi and his students making a fun video has any inkling of association to inappropriate teacher-student relationships is absolutely ridiculous. I am aware that you have sent multiple children through the New Rochelle public schools, yet all you do is complain about the district on this blog. It would be a nice change of pace if you would report on all the wonderful things that the schools do for its students and the community. There are thousands of enthusiastic, passionate, and dedicated employees who work in the school system, yet you only seem to care about the select few who act in poor judgement. As a NRHS alum I am so proud of the school that I went to and there is no way I would have attended another school. If you could please do a little research and think before you make outlandish statements, it would be appreciated.

Thank You

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 14:16

So, what you are telling me is that not a single person involved with this video, all keenly aware of the arrest of NRHS faculty member for calling and sending text messages seeking a relationship with a student outside the classroom, considered for a moment while writing, rehearsing, filming, editing and publishing a music video depicting students offering their phone number to their teacher, asking that the teacher call them and signing the note "XOXO" or "hugs and kisses" any connection whatsoever between what is depicted in the video and the Anton case.

Not a single person involved thought for even a second about any possible connection between the allegations against Anton and the storyline of the video?

That's what you are saying, right?

NewRoo826 on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 20:08

You want an answer? That is exactly what I'm saying. Honestly, NO ONE made that connection because unlike some people we try to get over things. We don't dwell on the past. We're a bunch on teenagers trying to enjoy the end of the year. Leave us alone.

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 20:32

Anton was arrested precisely one week before the video was released.

I know teens these days have limited attention spans but you think what happened with Anton is "the past'?

NewRoo826 on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 23:25

Yes I do. As I said before I'm a student at NRHS. We talked about it for two days...three tops. We move on fast. She isn't in the building anymore, she's been arrested. It's over.
I'm just pointing out that from many students' perspective, we didn't think about Anton at all, at least not until this article was posted.

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Robert Cox on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 00:01

And this is largely my point.

In my view, that no one involved with the video stopped to think for a moment that just maybe putting out a video with a classroom full of students offering their phone number to their teacher while singing along to a song about a girl wanting a boy to call her to hook up, and that teacher reciprocating, might not be such a good idea considering that just a few days earlier a colleague of that teacher had been arrested for calling a student and seeking to hook up at the very same school.

The question is whether knowing what you know right now, would you have done what you did. Because the result of uploading the video and making it public on YouTube has been, based on what I have seen here, caused no small degree of discomfort for the teacher and brought unwanted attention to the school.

I suspect the answer will be that no one involved with the video is to blame and that it is all my fault for expressing my view that the timing was poor.

And that is the larger point, I have yet to see any of the self-identified NRHS students take any responsibility whatsoever for their role in this controversy.

Those involved could have chosen to wait a few weeks to upload the video. They could have uploaded the video but marked it private. They could have uploaded the video but edited out the clip of the teacher holding up the sign. There are a lot of things that could have been done other than release the video publicly on the eve of Marisa Anton's first court appearance since the day she was arrested and within the week since her arrest.

Those students could have also ignored my article. Since so many have signed a petition endorsing the statement "what he says should not be under strict scrutiny" why are these same people putting what I say under so much scrutiny. Instead of ignoring my article, there appears to quite a few people are who obsessed by it, going so far as to demand that the article be taken down or the sentiments expressed in the article be recanted.

The idea that the appropriate response to speech with which you disagree is to seek to suppress that speech is perhaps the most troubling aspect of the behavior of the students who have been most vocal about this issue. The resorting to ad hominem attacks, vulgar language and various manner of histrionics raises some doubt in my mind as to the values being taught in our school system. It does nothing to convince an opponent and only serves to harden positions.

Has no one been teaching anything in our schools about civics, the Bill of Rights, free speech?

A few people here -- very few -- have taken a reasoned, responsible approach to encountering someone outside "the bubble" of academia (me) who is not willing to play the game of "nurturing" of students by telling them only what they want to hear, that everything they do is wonderful and if they do not get the approval they seek then shouting and stamping their feet will get them what they want.

Today, on NewsChannel 4's broadcast I learned that "all" the students are asking for is an apology. That was news to me since no one posting here or emailing me has done that. Mostly what I have seen here is puerile insults and emotive grandstanding.

That said, what exactly is it that these students propose that I apologize for? I cannot imagine what what would be or even why that would solve anything.

I have a better idea, how about the students who uploaded the video apologize to their teacher for not exercising better judgement in uploading the video in its present form in the days immediately following the Anton arrest. Or is too much to ask that NRHS student take responsibility for their own actions?

downwithcox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 14:37

They are making a fun little video based on a popular song. You seem to be one of very few people who have made this perverted connection. Get your mind out of the gutter, just because one employee of NRHS intended to engage in sexual acts with a student, does not make all other employees sick pedophiles! For God's sake, the fact that you even "reported" this is astounding. Have you ever met Mr. Rabadi? I'm sure if you had you would know right away that this was just harmless fun.

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 14:42

Why are so few people willing to address what I actually wrote or answer a rather simple question (above).

JayD. on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 16:15

Here is the answer to your question. Production for the video was done BEFORE the librarian's arrest. Do you really think that they could have rehearsed, filmed and edited it in less than a week?

Instead of admitting you were way off the mark, I assume you will say that even so 99% of the work was done, they should not have posted it. At least that is what I think someone who is so rigid in their belief would rationalize in their head.

downwithcox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:15

No I don't think that they ever second guessed what they were doing, because they don't automatically associate someone holding up a fake phone number with statutory rape and pedophilia as you apparently do!

Porquemonsieur on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 14:28
Title: Why?

Yes, i think that's what he's saying.
Not because of our 'lack of judgement', but because we are not perverted and knowing Mr. Rabadi, we WOULD NOT even think of comparing the two.
The video was shared with over 3000 people in one night...internationally and NONE of those people had the balls to write an article like this.
And for what? What did you gain for this article other than an outburst of hatred against you and your name? In any case, the video is back up on youtube, with credit given where it's due, and all you have left is a mob of students waiting to pounce the next time you publish BS like this. So why? why i ask did you write this article? What did you gain?

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Robert Cox on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 14:46
Title: Not compare

I did not ask whether people made a comparison.

I asked whether anyone involved considered any connection whatsoever between what is depicted in the video and the Anton case.

What is the difficulty in addressing what is actually written or asked? Please try and refrain from reframing a statement or question and just address iy directly.

Or are you afraid of the answer?

I suppose frothing hyperbole is more dramatic and fun than dealing with reality.

Porquemonsieur on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 15:12

No, no one considered any connection whatsoever with the video and the Anton case. Why?
Because we know Mr. Rabadi.
Because we're not perverted.
Because we're not looking for little excuses to belittle our children's creativity

FedUpinNewRo on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 16:01

... that from a PR standpoint the timing and nature of this video is the big issue here. Get out of your bubble and realize that tax dollars, and professional reputations are at stake here. While the nature and intent of the video may be harmless. In the wake of the many incidents plaguing the CSD of New Rochelle, the timing is nothing short of deplorable.

And while Cox may be going out on a limb with his connection between the nature of the song, and the inherent message, he is not wrong in doing so.

Porquemonsieur on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 17:02

Yes, and those tax dollars and reputations are at stake because of one man's oddball connections. The timing is absolutely irrelevant, and the article has done more damage than good.

FedUpinNewRo on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 15:43
Title: Really??

How can you possibly look at yourself in the mirror, and say the timing is irrelevant without laughing. It is the single most relevant thing related to this issue.

The fact that Rabadi, a homosexual teacher is parodying a video in which the singer is obcessing over the lawnboy, who in the parody is a mixed group of students is disturbing. And the timing makes it that much worse.

Imagine if a police officer was on charges of racism and excessive brutality when responding to a call. It was well publicized in the media, etc. then an unrelated officer "jokingly" uses the word nigger while greeting a friend, in uniform, in public. What would the anticipated reaction be?

JayD. on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 19:41

Rabadi is gay? How do you know that as fact? Only 2 possible ways. 1) He told you personally and 2) you have engaged in a homosexual relationship with him. Hearing it from a 3rd party is just heresay.

Now that a new 'fact' has been established, it makes Cox's article even more off the mark. Wasn't the fact that GIRLS were holding up their (make believe) phone number part of the problem (that is with the TIMING of their acting)?

Again, I had asked Cox...and now I ask you, of the more than 100 responses to the Cox writing, how many supported his ideology? How many disagreed? If 98% disagreed, shouldn't it give the author (and you) pause to rethink your stance? Only closed minded, rigid 'thinkers,' would brush off the vast majority.

Addressing the timing, I could not think of a better time. With the recent upsetting events, why should the students leave the school on a negative note? They truly appreciated the efforts by Mr. Rabadi to make them much better math students and wanted to leave high school (many in the video are seniors) on a high note. Unfortunately the attention the article brought took the glow off an otherwise awesome display of affection for a teacher....something we still far too little of in school these days.

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Robert Cox on Sun, 06/10/2012 - 02:26
Title: 98%

Jay wrote:

If 98% disagreed, shouldn't it give the author (and you) pause to rethink your stance? Only closed minded, rigid 'thinkers,' would brush off the vast majority.

The simple is "no".

It does not give me pause to rethink my stance. My "stance" is that uploading this video at this time exhibited poor judgement and I have explained my reasoning ad nauseum. My personal values do not change just because 1 or 100 or 1,000 or 1,000,000 say that I am wrong when I believe I am right. Do yours?

As should be obvious to anyone even remotely familiar with me or my site, I really do not care what other people think. I have my own moral compass and it has nothing to do with what is popular or fashionable or safe. It certainly does not include surrendering my own values in response to a handful of pseudonymous commenters on the Internet.

You think it is "closed-minded" to not change your position in the face of disagreement or criticism?

So, you think that Abraham Lincoln should not have emancipated slaves because most of the county opposed it? You think Rosa Parks should have moved from her seat because people opposed it? You think Copernicus should not have said the Earth revolved around the Sun because people did not believe it? You think Martin Luther King, Jr. was wrong for having a dream of a different America where people of all races, creeds and colors lived as one because the majority of Americans at that time did not share that dream?

I am certainly not comparing myself to these people just trying to understand your idea of moral principle -- is it taking a position and sticking to your guns or bending in the breeze to accommodate the loudest voices.

I suppose your definition of profiles in courage is to give in to peer-pressure, do what everyone else tells you do, go with the flow, never take a position where you place yours principle over short-term personal gain. If so, it must be comforting to know that you will never have to think for yourself or take a position with which those around you disagree. God knows the world needs more followers and less leaders, right?

I think uploading the video at this time was poor judgement. You are welcome to disagree as, obviously, you do. You can state your disagreement and why you think you are right and I am wrong. But where do you and other people get the idea that because you disagree with me I must therefore change my position and agree with you.

What I have read a lot of on this comment thread is how I must remove the article, recant my previous statement, and apologize (for what and too whom is not exactly clear). It is mystifying to me that those advocating these things appear incapable of accepting the idea that "diversity" includes diversity of thought not just race, ethnicity, gender or sexual orientation.

I suppose for many of the high school students who have been engaged on this issue it is confusing to encounter an adult who will not bow to their childish hectoring and tantrums. I have news for them. Get used to it. There is a whole wide world out there of people who do not care what you think, don't think your special in any way and have their own experiences and opinions to which they have as much right as you.

With all that said, what exactly is it that these "98%" disagree with?

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